We always find it amusing that we ended up in the “wedding biz” as we never had a real wedding! Our love story began over ten years ago in San Diego. We met in…ahem…Tijuana, Mexico…and it was love at first sight! I was 2 months into my college career and he was a sailor in the Navy. We soon became inseparable and a year later we were engaged! I was 19, he was 22 and we were in love. We were loosely planning a wedding for the following October, it would have been our 2 year anniversary but the Navy interrupted our plans. The ship he was stationed on was moving to Japan, with him on it! I thought I would stay behind and finish school, we would still get married but live apart for a year or two, he was gone most of the time anyways, would it be so bad?! My mom told me that I would be a fool to not go with him and my decision was made. On April 29, 2005 I got a phone call from my then boyfriend telling me that we had to go get married that day! I was sad, my parents wouldn’t be able to make it, his parents wouldn’t be there and it wasn’t the wedding that I had planned. We gathered up our two best friends and whisked ourselves off to the County Courthouse in El Cajon, CA. About 45 minutes and $100 later we were married! Three weeks later my new husband left for Japan and a month after that I followed him there!
There was no white dress, no flowers, no food, DJ, or cake, no guest list, invitations, or photography. It was me, my husband and our best friends. Ten years later we are still happily married. We have never renewed our vows, never had a reception, but we have made a marriage that we know will last a lifetime.
If I could would I do it differently? Yes and No. I would have loved to celebrate with the people we love but I believe we did what was best for us. We’ve had money to buy houses, go on nice vacations, splurge here and there. Do I wish I would have had a white dress to walk down an aisle next to my dad? Of course! I, to this day, have never even tried on a wedding dress! Will we someday renew our vows? Most likely, in another 10 or 15 years perhaps.
The moral of the story is that although your wedding day should be everything you want it to be, sometimes you have to go with the flow. Don’t let the little things stress you out, because what matters most is that you are committing yourself to the person that you love for life. You are sharing that moment with the other people in your lives that matter most. To avoid wedding stress work with people you trust and enjoy, budget and communicate with your spouse to be. Your wedding lasts one day, but your marriage will last a lifetime!